The Social Hubs
The Social HubsIn the society today there are many forms of social hubs.
First and foremost are yourself a social hub for bilions of different organisms that take up residents in your body. You exists of billions of living breathing cells, each carrying a copy of your personal DNA inside, each mentality you experience get interpret by your cells, reacting to the neuro peptides your brain transmit as a chemical coctail of all your senses have collected, creating your perception of the world around you. You are their universe and ecosystem so take care of their world!
Second is your family and relatives when you are born. In this group, you are in the center of attention (depending on numbers of siblings ofcourse), and you are influencing the dynamic of this group with your interactions.
Third is kindergarden and early school. No expectations have been laid upon you yet. You are free to create and spend your day as you like, the days are not so long and you learn alphabet and counting. However the social hotspot is changing from central in family to group with a central person.
This makes it hard for some children to understand the difference between not being central (being enhanced) and being part of a group (being an enhancer to the central person).
The central person in a social hub is the one with most influence in the social groups dynamic. By leaving enhancement to a central person it expresses that this persons active choice will be obeyed by the followers, and by that takes over the responsibility for them. So the group enhance the leader by not having to face the consequenses. This creates a responsibility leash. The leash is built that the central person have rules (expectancys) that the followers have to stay within. If the rules are overtread, the central person put guilt on this person for not staying within the expectations for the central persons responsibility ownership.
This can be illustrated with a dog on a leash. The dog has an expected line of freedom to move, but when this is overtread ot if the dog is too slow, the owner will yell at the dog for not knowing its boundaries (as the owner have responsibility of the dog, so it owns it).
Many children are angry at a certain age, could it have to do with the lack of self independance? Could it be that when a child goes from one form of social knitpoint to the next there is a perception breech between adult minds and children, Children take in millions of mental seeds each day that they want to expolore with their senses to get a higher understanding about the world around them. This includes teachers to help them understand their wonderings with logic and interest in the childs perspective. A teacher should be someone who never stop learning from their students, who interact with them as holders of perceptions the teacher might never have seen without their help.
So what to schools do; they make children copy. Memorize texts written in a time not relevant in their lives. They grade them from the effort they manage to adapt this rules. The teachers have already the taken centralized role, but not based on relationship, but authority. The children are lost in a void of new people the have little or none relationship with. This also ocurrs in a time when the mentality of the young humans also start to enhance their ability to attract a partner.
All these forces make humans locked in a struggle of stress. You are pulled in different directions. At home you are supposed to be central part of a socal hub that hardly meet (because of work and schools) creating a weaker bond. The way parents keep this bond up is by offering themselves as servants and demanding tasks to be done (to prove the bond is existing) However this is NOT a relationship bond this is again a responsibility leash. How many times havent children heard " As long as you are under my roof you do as you're told".
The other pull is the need to belong to a larger social hub, where one can enhance certain criterias about one self that attracts. These attractions are measured from the positive (and negative) encouragement the society and friends give you. You choose the traits that give you best positive response about yourself to attract others. These traits are then enhanced by looking for simular people in your society. When the group have enhanced itself with enough simular people, it start to compete (rebel) against the society who dont share the same mentality perception as the group. These people become objectified, while a teenage becomes subject. How ever, influence is a strong force in the society and teenagers are constantly 'waving their antennae' for any negativity to their subject role. The main goal is to attract and it searches for belonging, a home feromone. Teenagers spend so much time in search of their ultimate attraction, that they enhance their thought of their persons impact on the world around them, that they walk around oblivious to the fact that their role in the society is the same as anyone elses. The only difference is that teenagers are much more insecure to critique as their effort to attract is what gives them a feeling of identity and human value.
If this attraction identity is enhanced successfully, the perception of the self becomes this role. All that matters is to attract potential people. But as this attraction identity is based on a pick of your self images best features, to keep it intact for long demands extremely much focus. This is why I believe teenagers are so self centered. Their whole being is used to keep up a good attraction identity so that they can be found by a positive enhancing group, a new home.
Why are teenagers searching?
Humans and all life is much more than appearance. With each mentality we have, we signal to our invironment through chemical smell how we feel. Positive focus gives the environment a boost of neuro - chemicals like dopamine, feromones etc. They signal that we feel good and that there is peace were we are. People who feel insecure, that dont have a strong social hub around them get very easy lost in this fog of mentalitys we experience each day. Each living person recieves immense number of chemical compounds eachday from people in the street. To find a social hub that brings 'peace' and 'home' neuro peptides is hard. This is why teenagers send out a call of their own to locate others with simular call to create a 'home' a social hub of their own. But because these calls are filled with anxiety and fear to not belong they attract simular mentalitys to enhance this. These people create a shield against a society that might scatter this hub by pointing out that their way of percieve themselves are wrong, so they objectify the society and subjectify themseves. They build their cocoon of perception, where everything is imagined as their way of truth. To alter this perception of truth will hurt, because it is woven with the deepest wish of ones mind. But it dont alter the world, just add more branches to your mental perception tree and let your world grow, past this cocoon of wishful reality.